"IT’S BEEN A HAPPIER ME, IT’S BEEN A BALANCED ME”…

Lately whosoever meets me after a gap of time somehow ends up asking me a very similar sort of question-“So, how does it feel to be married?” or “How’s the married life treating you?”

What do I tell them, how do I describe a running phase of my life in a matter of few words...? Superb, outstanding, adventurous, exciting or exemplary… Not sure which adjective would describe this phase of my life the best? If someone is simply adamant on getting a response, I retort by saying – My life has been Absolutely Normal all this while.

At the first read the description, “Absolutely Normal” may seem to some a sheer understatement for describing happiness. But then try to remember the last instance when your life was absolutely normal. Answer will be too hard to get to, isn’t it?

How hard you may try but then marriage will change you in many ways. And then change is inevitable, isn’t it? Life changes in a jiffy, before you can even realize. In a matter of a day you have several relations supplemented in your life, you have new responsibilities which require your undivided attention. With respect to life, ignorance and complacency have to be thrown out. You are suddenly expected to be grown up, to be matured. Till the time you comprehend the occurring changes, even the color of the bedroom walls becomes an imperative topic.

But even if marriage changes so much, and I claim to be leading an Absolutely Normal life means something has been definitely going right in my life, may be it just means I am going ahead with the veracious person. It’s not that I was leading a painstaking life before. I have always been blessed with wonderful people around and my life was indeed sailing like a free flowing river. But the catch here is that maybe it was sailing directionless, purposeless. A correct life partner makes a lot of difference in your life and I have no qualms in accepting my better half as the sailor of our lives. She has certainly brought the balance that I as a person was missing, the love that my heart was missing and the direction that my life was missing.

Her efforts to ensure that our lives doesn't encounter any dull moments, the ease at which she switch roles, the patience by which she encounters my unwanted burst of anger, the silence by which she answers all my questions, the respect she gives to my family, the friendliness which she brings around, the keenness she shows in my area of interests are some things at which my heart simply drools at. 

Amongst all the changes that this phenomenon called Marriage had to offer me, I can particularly point out two vicissitudes –

“It’s been a happier me, It’s been a balanced me”…

I will not say it’s been a hand glove situation for both of us; it’s never the case for any couple.  We also at times shout, fight, vent out our frustration at each other but then we do not let that effect our relationship, our love. Once you start seeing a person day in day out it’s very easy to take that person for granted, however hard you may try the feeling somehow creeps in. The only thing which will help you in such spells will be the love you share, the memories you create, and the bond you develop. 

It’s been only 6 months and I have certainly not turned into an expert who can comment and advice on how a marriage life unfolds. But yes with whatever understanding I have of relationships I can feel my life is headed in the correct direction and more importantly with the correct person. I understand that with time, there will be highs and lows, there will be fights and arguments but we will make sure that the only thing which increases should be the love and trust between us. 

I am pretty sure some years down the line also I will repeat the above mentioned declaration -  

“It’s been a happier me, It’s been a balanced me”…